Saturday, September 14, 2013

Kolhapur Diaries

From left: Surbhi, Doli, Nik, Nups, Adi, Pri and Sneha
Finally its here! This post is dedicated specially to d GOG - Surbhi Gandhi, Doli Sakhpara, Priyanka Momaya, Sneha Shah and of course the most important of all Nupur Gandhi without whom this amazing trip would never have happened in the first place... Thanks a lot for getting married Nupur!

Now, before getting down to the actual story, a small clarification - I'm not sure if this account can actually be termed a diary, considering that it hardly lasted for 3 days. However, given the fact that the numerous accidents we encountered were sufficient enough to have occurred over a span of well over a year, I'll take d liberty and still call it a big fat diary!

Now, coming to d point. Here goes d story...

Day zero (being MBAs, we start counting important days from zero): 
We had all been super excited to finally leave for the very awaited trip to Kolhapur for our very dear fiend Nupur's wedding. The tickets were booked and the train was to leave from CST - from where Surbhi, Pri and I were to board it, halt at Dadar - from where Doli and Sneha were to join. However, everybody who has ever known Sneha would know that things were not entirely bound to be smooth when she informed us that she was running a "little" late. Nonetheless, we tried thinking positive even when we got to know that the two of them had reached just Bandra when our train had already departed from  CST. Counting every minute and desperately wishing for the train to encounter a signal of some sort, we kept calling them every 2 minutes, each time getting the same answer - they were still at Bandra! How does she manage to be late every damn time?! Anyways, slowly (and trust me - really slowly) our train reached Dadar, and Doli & Sneha had managed to reach Dadar too. Now came the moment of chase - they were on a different platform than our train, which meant they needed to push trough the extremely infamous peak hour rush of Dadar, cross the bridge and get to the compartment, all in less than 120 seconds! This was a mamoth task for anybody, let alone Sneha and Doli whose Ferrari speed was very well known to us all :P As the two minutes were coming to an end - they told us they were already on the bridge and just needed to alight - and at that precise moment, our train took off. 

It was impossible for us to believe they had actually missed the train by such a close margin. Unsure of whether to laugh or get upset, we made ourselves believe that that was the end of the trip for the two of them. It was the first time Doli had got the permission to be out with us, and such a disaster would mean the end of any future permissions for her. Within five minutes, the news spread to all our friends, and nobody had to take any second guesses to know who was accountable for this. Each one made a point to personally convey this to Sneha in their own way. On one hand, Surbhi, Pri and I settled at our seats, feeling disappointed and angry at the same time, while on the other hand, Sneha and Doli were trying to get tickets to the next train - which of course were unavailable. 

Then came a huge surprise when Doli - of all people - suggested that they should continue by some alternate means, no matter what! They proceeded to book the next private bus to Kolhapur, and made sure they make it to the venue by next morning. We all knew this was the first time Doli had lied to her family - the first time we saw a small hint of a naughty rebel in her :D Finally, with all of us on our way, we felt a cheer in our hearts that the trip was not ruined after all!

Day 1: Kolhapur station
We alighted very early in the morning to be greeted by PINK. It was pink everywhere. Pink was the colour of the seat, the streets, the people and their belongings. The gulal was everywhere around us. Wondering what festivity was on during this off season (for Holi was long gone), we asked a few locals about it. Apparently there was some yatra organized to the famous Mahalaxmi temple of Kolhapur every year, and this was that time of the year when believers from all nearby villages and towns flocked to Kolhapur to pray at the temple to get their wishes fulfilled. 

Amused by the sight, we continued on our way to the lodge. Turned out Nupur had arranged for an 8 bed room for just 5 of us. The best part - there were bunk beds!!!! Feeling like little school girls, we all took less than a minute to select the top floor of 3 of the beds. Within a few minutes, Doli and Sneha reached too. Finally we made it! 

Day 1: Afternoon
We quickly freshened up and moved out to shop and tour around the city. The plan was to visit the Mahalaxmi temple, buy some awesome Kolhapuri chappals, bangles, visit the famous palace at the outskirts of the city, and be back by evening to attend the Sangeet at the water park, where Nups and everybody else had planned performances for the night.

So we shopped till we dropped :) (we were 5 girls - what do you expect!). Having got everything to the content of our hearts, we then set out to visit the palace. We hired a return rickshaw to the palace, and back to the city for lunch. The palace was mind blowing. The deer and peacock sanctuary next to the lake, the spacious lawn and the beautiful interiors with a huge collection of ancient arms - everything seemed superbly astounding to the eyes of any urban visitor. 

Finally, having taken a million pictures in a thousand different poses, we took the rickshaw back to the city. Starving to the core, we hogged on the spicy Misal and Usal pav at a local restaurant. It must have been mid afternoon when we began walking back to the lodge to take a short nap before the evening Sangeet celebrations. We would have walked about five minutes when it struck us. 

Five girls, all having spent three long hours shopping and bargaining, and none of us remembered to check our belongings while getting off the rickshaw! We had left all our morning's efforts and a couple of grand worth of newbies in our rickshaw! The best part was none of us realizing it for a full two hours!

Panic struck all our faces. We had two choices - to let go off everything and go back sullen, or to report to the police and hope to locate the rickshaw and our bags by the end of next day. The decision was easier when we saw the police station right around the corner. We logged a complaint, requested the officers to expedite the search since we would not be around for long. After a check at 2 rickshaw stands, other branches of police stations in the city and a 40 minute long wait, we were told that the rickshaw was not located and we would have to let go of everything. We were so dejected we were about to give up. Just then, we were informed of a last option - a check at the transport authority office to get the address of the rickshaw fellow and pay him a personal visit to get back our stuff. Time was running out since it was near evening and the office would shut in another half hour. Pri, Surbhi and I set out to the office of transport - only to realize that there were 2 auto rickshaws registered with the same license number!

So now we had 2 addresses to check out, in addition to checking at the traffic office and the corner where we had boarded the auto in the first place. Not having located it at the latter two places, we had to pick one address randomly - that we would be visiting first. The one we chose turned out to be a tiny dirty slum. We noticed our rickshaw parked next to a tree at the side. Immediately next to the tree were also empty yellow bags - exactly similar to the ones we were carrying! 

We kept moving towards the room we were told where the driver stayed. When we got there, we see him sleeping peacefully on the couch X( the 3 of us managed courage to knock and wake him up. What followed next was what makes this country the best - the driver was extremely happy to see us and immediately woke up, started talking to us and before even us mentioning it, got out our bag - intact. We did not know how to react. We thanked him profusely and left. On our way back, we realized that more than the joy of receiving our stuff back, we were more elated with the thrill of our little adventure :D

Day 1: Evening
After a tiring day (yes, we were tired already, even before the actual function began), we thought of resting a little before getting ready for the Sangeet. However, as observed in such situations, we ended up taking a little longer break than planned for. The outcome - obviously we were late for the function. We were greeted by a very upset Nupur who was wondering why we had been lost all day. To her question, Surbhi promptly and innocently replies - we were at the police station :) The reaction on Nupur's face was worth a million. Before we could explain to her in detail, she was dragged away by someone for some preparations - surely left curious by the incomplete story. 

The Sangeet went smooth without any further adventures. Nupur's shadow dance was simply superb as were the other performances. Icing on the cake were the many many air balloons we lit up and set going. The sky just dazzled by their light! We got back to the lodge extremely tired and completely drained of all energy. Little did we know that the marathon of adventures was far from over.

Day 2: The Miss
This was the day we had travelled for - Nupur's wedding day! We got up late (obviously), but excited and hungry! So we had to go find something to eat before we could get dressed for the wedding ceremony. Just one extra task that we as girls just had to get done was one more purchase - that of the super famous spicy Kolhapuri Chivda. Not knowing exactly where to find it, we set out to explore the neighbouring area, hoping to have some snacks on the way. We did find it in a store not far from where we were put up. So delicious was the Chivda and the chat that we completely lost track of time. When we did check the time we realized we were already running late for mid-day wedding. So we rushed back to our lodge, only to bump into Neil. Neil was Doli's neighbour, and after a couple of minutes I realized he was also my cousin Kairavi's classmate. Neil and Kairavi were pursuing MBBS in Kolhapur. It didn't take us long to plan out the evening when we decided to go to the lake, where Neil and Kairavi would join us.

Finally, after about an hour (read: a girl's hour), we left for the water park. The wedding was to be in the open lawn f the park. We were running late by more than an hour already, and were desperately praying that the ceremony hadn't already begun. When we did reach the park, we noticed a "doli" being taken away from the venue. We knew that Nups had planned on coming in seated in a doli and we had been dying to see it. Now we knew we had missed it.

Feeling miserable about being late for the most important function, we proceeded to the stage area. We were still contemplating amongst ourselves whether the ceremony had begun or would have gotten over already, when we see Nups and Nik on stage - having a reception.

That was when our hearts truly sunk. The entire wedding ceremony was over and the reception was already underway. Nups noticed us from the stage and gave us an angry look. Somehow we mustered the courage to go up there and wish her. Needless to say she was very upset and it was totally evident on her face that she was going to fire us for it later on - for years and years to come. Quietly we wished her and Nik and went down to have a seat in front of the stage. We were no longer in mood for any chat. Nupur's mom came and asked us to go ahead for lunch. We realized most guests had already had lunch, and some were even beginning to leave. We had our lunch quietly and guiltily. The whole purpose of the visit was washed away. We had repeated yesterday's mistake and were late again. We had missed the wedding.

When we returned to our seats after lunch, we asked aunty about the next ceremony. She was too busy making arrangements to tell us in detail, but we heard some mention about "saptapadi". None of us knew what it meant, but it seemed to be similar to the seven steps or the seven pheras. We started feeling more confused than ever. This only got worse when we saw that the decorators began to take away the chairs and re-arranging it around another smaller stage. 

Then it dawned on us! Nupur wasn't wearing the mangalsutra yet. there was no sindur on her forehead either. Did it mean that the actual ceremony had not yet happened? Can God really be that kind?!

Yes, He can :) We got to know that since it was summer season, and exam time, both families had agreed to get done with the reception first so the guests can leave on time. the wedding rituals were to follow later. This was the first time we had heard of this reversal in a gujju-marathi wedding, so it came as a superbly pleasant surprise for us losers :P

With our spirits lifted, we cheered Nups as she took the pheras while the pandit explained to her the vows she was making with each phera. Each one of us had already begun to realize that she was going away. We would no longer be able to see her everyday the way it used to be. Not just because she was getting married, but because she was moving to US. We were going to miss our friend dearly!

But it was not time for Vidaai yet. Now was the time for us "saalis" to have some fun with our jiju. It was prank time! When Nups and Nik settled on the grand table for their first lunch as a married couple, the relatives began to feed them sweets one by one. This was our opportunity to do something naughty. The sweet on the lunch menu was a Bengali roll of some sort. We thought we must take 2 pieces to the bride and groom and make them have it by the hands of the other. There was only a slight change here - Nik's roll would be sweet only from the outside. The stuffing inside was 2-3 spoonfuls of salt :) We had made the poor guy have the entire roll in a single bite, and his face was now showing a million emotions all at once :D 

Avoid it as much as we want, but the moment was here when Nups had to leave. With heavy hearts we saw her depart - permanently - away from us all. We could only hope that the technological advancements would help us keep in touch in one way or the other.

Day 2: All's not over yet
It was evening of the second day and we were to go to the lake. Neil and Kairavi were to meet us there, we were to have wada pavs and awesome Mastani - a local variant of multi-flavoured smoothie. We had an amazing time in the city and Neil and Kairu were just going crazy listening to our horrendous misadventures of the past 2 days. The celebrations were just multiplied when we saw the procession of Shivaji's descendants going across the city. There were carts and soldiers and fireworks and a crazy number of people on the roads gathered to see the procession. It was a sight worth watching. We were at a tiny restaurant having our Mastanis when it was time for Kairu to leave. She had to be at her hostel as soon as possible, if she had to get an entry at all. So we bid her goodbye early on. We ourselves had to leave within a few minutes if we were to not miss our return train to Mumbai. 

But as fate would have it - we had passed on our misfortunes to my cousin. Within 5-10 minutes of her leaving, we get a call where she informs us that she had lost her way (seemed like utter bad sense of direction runs in the family). She had taken an alternate route to her hostel because she was getting late and the direct roads to her hostel were completely packed with public and traffic to allow any movement - and got lost mid way.

We all completely panicked since losing way on a super populated day like this was terrifying. It was going to be a challenge finding her. Neil - who was more familiar with the city than any of us - rushed on his bike to find my cousin. I was worried to death about my sister's whereabouts. We all were.

Thankfully, we were saved another time. Neil managed to locate her and dropped her to her hostel. She had missed her deadline and had to sneak in by borrowing her friend's lab coat, pretending to be on rounds for that evening. This was a first for my innocent cousin too - who had never before acted so sinister :)

Day 2: Ab Bas!!!
We were only much too aware of the fact that the unexpected accident had caused us a delay and we were running late for the train. Not caring much about the details, we rushed to somehow manage to be on time. Luckily, this time there were no misses. We settled in the train recounting the events of the last 2 days, hardly able to believe that so much could happen in a span of just 2 days!. Tired and exhausted, we planned on sleeping early that night. We all had work to get to the next morning.

It had just been a while, when our train stopped at a tiny station, not listed on the halt list. Before long, we started seeing several policemen around, and a few of the passengers alighting the train. We went to the gate and upon looking around and inquiring a little, got to know that there had been a small fire in the adjacent compartment due to lack of lubrication causing friction between the wheel and some other part. We just could not believe our luck!

Fortunately, the fire was put off immediately, and the train moved very very slowly to the next station, where the necessary repairing was done to the damaged parts. All was well again. Thanking our narrow escape for the fifth time in 2 days, we headed to our beds.

Unfortunately, we were proven wrong once again.

Not long after, Doli - who had taken the lower berth - was woken up by a man asking her to give him some space on her seat. Doli refused politely, asking the man to move on to another area, since this section was reserved for ladies. Seemingly, the mad did not like to be turned down. He took out his cell phone, and took a picture of the police on the opposite seat. The police had been sleeping deeply on duty.

The man used the picture to his advantage and tried to blackmail the police to get him a reservation. The police, luckily, was not a man to be deterred so easily. He fearlessly shooed him away. Only later did we realize, he was not so fearless after all. The very next moment he scribbled a note on a piece of paper and asked Doli to sign on it with all her details. the note was a clarification stating that she had sought police help to get rid of the man who had tried to get her seat forcefully in the middle of the night. The police wanted to cover up for himself in case the man actually got down to doing what he had threatened. 

Finally, after a long discussion with the policeman, Doli signed on the paper and got into bed. We reached Mumbai without any further adventures in the night. Needless to say, we were late by several hours and half of us skipped office that day.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

My Additions to Murphy's Laws

Recently I was just having this discussion with my friends about Murphy's Laws when we realized there are so many such small incidents we often come across in our lives - which if taken from Murphy's point of view - would make life much more interesting :) So here goes my localized version of Murphy's Laws:

1. Law of Opportunity: Your boss will allot you maximum work on the day you plan to leave early

2. Law of Wrong Timing: No matter how hard you have worked the entire day, your boss will catch you only at the moment you decide to open Facebook

3. Law of Meetings: On the day you are happy your boss is going to be out all day for meeting - the meeting gets cancelled

4. Law of Bonus: The day you switch you job, your company starts giving out huge bonuses

5. Law of Workload: All work has to arrive simultaneously

6. Law of Gossip: All gossips travel faster than light (unless they are about yourself - in which case, refer Law of Gossip Illusion)

7. Law of Gossip Illusion: That there is no gossip making rounds about you is an illusion

8. Law of Breakage: Your shoe will break only after you have left the house

9. Law of Pass Expiry: You will realize your pass has expired only when you see a TC

10. Law of Time Pass: Just when you are free to have some fun, the entire world will turn extremely busy

11. Inverse Law of Time Pass: You seem to get most work just when the entire world is free for partying

12. Law of Silliness: You friends will laugh at the silliest of jokes except for your original ones

13. Law of Monsoon: It will definitely rain on the day you forget to carry your umbrella

14: Law of Bunking: If you are regular at attending college / office and decide to bunk one day, you are bound to be caught that day

15. Corollary to Law of Bunking: If you are regular at attending college / office and decide to bunk one day, some important call / meeting / assignment / test is bound to happen that day

16. Law of ATM: The ATM will never work when you need it most

17. Law of TV: While watching your favourite TV show, the telephone will ring at the time the most interesting revelation is about to be made

18. Law of Auto-save: Office will always crash when you haven't saved your work

19. Law of Photography: In every group picture, there is always at least one person with a weird pose or expression

20. Law of Cabs: You will never find one when you are in a hurry

21: Law of Traffic: You will find maximum traffic when you are running late

22. Law of Sale: When at a sale, you will never find the right size





Saturday, December 8, 2012

Breathe Free

This is the first time I am putting up something serious on a public portal. But I feel there is a strong need to do so, for more reasons than one. Let me not be a bore by  talking about reasons and get down straight to the point - the reasons will become obvious on their own.

Well, to start with let me say that we claim of living in the 21st century and belonging to GenY who is fiercely independent and confident about themselves. We claim that we are learned, have earned multiple degrees and have successful white collar jobs. We claim to be bold, open minded and rational individuals who have learned through experiences more than just hearsay. We claim to believe in equality and do not hesitate in voicing out our opinions strongly against discrimination of any sort. We claim we look down upon the silly superstitions and rituals that do not follow logic or reasons of today's age. We claim to have gone beyond the age of rules to an age of rationalism. We claim these and a million more things that give us an image of being a fair, just and open minded individual of the 21st century.

Having said that, these are nothing but so called CLAIMS that we make about ourselves. How many of us actually practice it on a daily basis? How many of us can truly state for a fact that they truly do not carry out any sort of discrimination themselves? Despite having claimed to be a person of a particular kind, what happens when the time comes to adhere to them? Why can't most people stand up for what they claim about? If you are not going to follow it, why make false claims in the first place?

We say we live in an era of equality where men and women must be treated as equals. Yet, when it comes to  his own self, a guy expects to marry a homely girl who will stay home and do nothing beyond the domestic chores and putting up a smile for the husband when he comes home - tired and exhausted and completely ignorant of the challenges that his wife has faced through the day. A woman would want the prettiest girl in the world for her son ignoring the flaws in her own blood. The so called claims of equality fall to zero when it comes to the matter of marriage. The guy's family would still have their nasty demands - a lavish wedding, a houseful of dowry and an upper hand in the relationship for a lifetime.

Where does the so called rationalism disappear at such times? What happens to the fair and just and open minded individual of the 21st century then? The double standards of the society fail to make sense to me each time I encounter such incidences.

I am not here to change the world through a few goody goody words. But I do wish. I do wish to live in an unbiased world. I do wish to be in a place where there is no bondage in the way I can talk or dress or think or act. I do wish to be in a place where one is not looked down upon for merely being a girl, where her place in the house is not restricted to the kitchen alone, where she can dine with her family and share her feelings with an open heart, where she is respected for the person that she really is. I wish to live without fear. I wish of a place where I can BREATHE FREE.

Is it too much to  ask for?


Sunday, October 17, 2010

On and On

On and On as life goes on
I often wonder is it worth all
The tiresome days
The sleepless nights
The loss of love
The loss of life

On and On as life goes on
I often wonder is it worth all
The greed of wealth
The race to top
The endless chase
No time to stop

On and On as life goes on
I am left to wonder.......
Will it be worth all....

Friday, September 17, 2010

wish come true

Lost n forlorn
I'd been waiting alone
For someone to come
And take me along
To a place afar
From the worldly gloom
To a place of love
Where I can belong

Quiet n sullen
I'd spared the words
For that special one
To whom I'd sing
The songs of the heart
And the melodies sweet
Of the chimes of the harp
And the violin strings

Softly n slowly
You then came around
A stranger at first
I didn't care about
A while passed by
I found in u a mate
There sure was something
That spared no doubt

Slowly n subtly
You've got so close
You've reached my heart
And touched its core
The silhouette of the one
Is now taking form
The argosy of love
Is now reaching shore

Sweet n serene
The dreams I'd seen
Now all for you
Are 'coming real
Oh yes its you
I know it now
Its not a dream
Yet seems surreal

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Blogging!

well this is not like an essay on the hobby of blogging..its jus a few things i tend to notice about people who blog from the way they blog..

for starters, there are 3 types of bloggers (keeping aside the professionals who blog as a means to earn sum cash n not just as a hobby): 1. Show Offs 2. The Abstracts 3. The Confused

The Show Offs: These are typically students or professionals running the rat race trying to outpace every1 arnd them by trying to show how very interesting their life is and how much they actually do with it! No doubt these blogs are one of the best reads with nice superfluous language, very nicely framed incidents (cos they are obviously written by the front-runners of the race), amazingly insightful abt themselves (or whteva it is they write abt) and often hilarious or atleast sarcastically funny. No personal grudge, but I often tend to find these as a conscious effort to write constantly to keep up the lead in the race than anything more.

The Abstracts: These are people who write on just abt anything under the sun. Again a very interesting read since these people tend to bring out a completely different perspective on how we see things arnd us in an extremely interesting manner. These articles mite just make you ponder over them even a while after you have read them up. A reflection of their writings, the people who post such articles are also quite interesting to knw. They are a world apart from the race runners, not overly interested in the rules of the world and don't often adhere to any single theme or pattern. These are the ones often addressed by some tend as the crazy creatives...I cal them the spice of human species.

The Confused: My favorite types (cos i include myself in this category ;)). They are non frequent, non regulars and non systematic. They tend to write only on occasions when they find sumthing extremely worth writing for. Though these also tend to write on anything under the sun in any form they find apt and without any theme or regularity, they do not often present creative fronts in their writings as well as the abstracts. Yet, their work sometimes turns out to be a pretty decent collage of various colors of life presented from a single person's perspective. Highly biased and opinionated yet a good read if you can digest it. On closer examination, they mite actually present a nice reflection of the blogger's personality itself.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

On Critics and Criticism...

How we all njoy jus pointin out flaws in every1 whom or everythin that we despise...its kinda pacifying to ourselves that the target isn't really as good as it seems...but think again....
Is it just cos sumwhr down the line you actually envy his or her position? Or you wish u were as lucky yourself? Or simply wanna make yourself feel better that you are no less....
Whatever the reason..a point here is that every single act or task that is carried out by any1 has a certain amount of effort gone into it..a certain amount of dedication...a certain amount of attachment by the doer...a certain amount of hope...It is like someone's imagination taking shape...
So criticisin sum1 is lik criticizing sumbody's imagination...n nobody has the right to do that...for the simple reason that imaginations donot follow rules...they r not supposed to..
So y criticise???